Edith Eger es una mujer que ha tenido una vida llena de intensidad, de aprendizajes y finalmente de ayuda para ella y para los demás. Edith nació hace unos 93 años en Hungría y a los 16 años fue enviada a Auschwitz con su familia. Sus padres fueron enviados a los hornos y asesinados al llegar al campo de concentración. Ella, una bailarina de 16 años se salvó porque bailaba ballet por las noches a los oficiales alemanes.
Un año después termina la guerra y logra milagrosamente sobrevivir. Emigra a los Estados Unidos y años después estudia Sicología y logra las mejores notas en una maestría y un doctorado. Sus experiencias, su terapia y manera de tratar a sus pacientes ha logrado que muchos de ellos salgan adelante de tantas “prisiones mentales” en las que han estado sufriendo durante muchos años.

Edith escribe dos maravillosos libros que vale la vida leerlos. “The Choice” y “The Gift”. En este último, Edith nos regala 12 lecciones para salvar nuestras vidas. Nos relata 12 prisiones mentales en las que muchos vivimos y nos lleva de la mano para que las identifiquemos y logremos salir de ellas. Nos regala “la llave” para salir y liberarnos.
En una de tantas historias, platica como, estando en París con su marido, se entera que el ballet Bolshoi estaría en la ciudad y le pide a su esposo que por favor la lleve. El marido le compra un boleto y ella, bailarina desde niña, disfruta uno de los espectáculos mas increíbles. En el intermedio, ella sale a la calle y le dice que hay lugares vacíos y que ella le da con gusto su boleto para que pueda ver esta maravilla. Él le contesta que de ninguna manera le dará un centavo “a los Rusos”, que ya le han echado a perder su vida de muchas maneras, como para que aparte de todo, él les dé su dinero. Ella le explica que solo son unos muchachos y que bailan como los ángeles.
El esposo tiene SU razón y ella tiene la SUYA. Edith regresa y disfruta intensamente del espectáculo.
Les anexo las citas que mas me gustaron del libro.
Mi manera no es mejor que la tuya. Mi razón tampoco. Tú tienes tu punto de vista y Tú Verdad y yo tengo mi punto de vista y mi verdad. Yo respeto la tuya y tu respeta la mía.
Las quejas y las críticas no deben de caber. Así que elimínalas. No critiques. Nunca. Nadie crece con las críticas. No puedes querer que la otra persona sea diferente. Solo puedes descubrir lo que es bueno para ti.
Change is about interrupting the habits and patterns that no longer serve us.
When you change your life, it isn’t to become the new you. It’s to become the real you—the one-of-a-kind diamond that will never exist again and can never be replaced.
The ultimate key to freedom is to keep becoming who you truly are.
Suffering is universal. But victimhood is optional.
We don’t get to choose what happens to us, but we do get to choose how we respond to our experience.
Releasing ourselves from victimhood also means releasing others from the roles we’ve assigned them.
When we choose to respond to what’s happened by moving forward and discovering our freedom to, we release ourselves from the prison of victimhood.
Sometimes the feelings we run from aren’t the uncomfortable or painful ones. Sometimes we avoid the good feelings.
This is how we release ourselves from the prison of avoidance—we let the feelings come. We let them move through us. And then we let them go.
It’s very dangerous to put your whole life into someone else’s hands. You are the only one you’re going to have for a lifetime. All other relationships will end. So how can you be the best loving, unconditional, no-nonsense caregiver to yourself?
Sometimes the hardest way to show up for ourselves is to ask for help.
What can you do today to be self-ish—to show yourself love and care?
Honey, find you and keep filling it up with more you. You don’t have to work to be loved. You just have to be you. May you be more and more you every day.
Secrets are harmful because they create and sustain a climate for shame, and shame is the bottom line of any addiction.
Honesty starts with learning to tell the truth to yourself.
If you sit with one butt on two chairs, you become half-assed.
You always have a choice about what to do with the information life hands you.
Freedom lies in accepting our whole, imperfect selves and giving up the need for perfection.
Ultimately, guilt and shame don’t come from the outside. They come from the inside.
Loving yourself is the only foundation for wholeness, health, and joy.
Once you begin to heal, what you discover will not be the new you, but the real you. The you that was there all along, beautiful, born with love and joy.
What you pay attention to grows stronger.
Grief is often not about what happened. It’s about what didn’t happen.
You can come to terms with what was and what wasn’t. And you can concentrate not on what you lost, but on what is left: the choice to live every moment as a gift, to embrace what is.
Grieving is difficult, but it can also feel good. You can revisit the past. You can even embrace it. You’re not stuck there. You’re here now. And you’re strong.
Conflict is human. When we avoid conflict, we’re actually moving closer to tyranny than to peace. Conflict itself isn’t imprisoning. What keeps us trapped is the rigid thinking we often use to manage conflict.
If you take back your power and still want to be right, then choose to be kind, because kindness is always right.
We don’t have to like the difficult or painful things that happen to us. But when we stop fighting and resisting, we have more energy and imagination to move forward, instead of nowhere.
When we’re angry, it’s often because there’s a gap between our expectations and reality. We think it’s the other person who’s trapping and aggravating us—but the real prison is our unrealistic expectations.
Times are changing, and we are changing with the times. We aren’t stuck in the past, or stuck in our old patterns and behaviors. We’re here now, in the present, and it’s up to us what we hold on to, what we let go, and what we reach for.
We aren’t born with fear. Somewhere along the way, we learn it.
It’s better to risk and grow, and maybe fail, than to remain imprisoned, never knowing what could have been.
We’re born to love; we learn to hate. It’s up to us what we reach for.
Hope doesn’t obscure or whitewash reality. Hope tells us that life is full of darkness and suffering—and yet if we survive today, tomorrow we’ll be free.
To forgive isn’t to give someone permission to keep hurting you. It’s not okay that you were harmed. But it’s already done. No one but you can heal the wound.
Forgiveness isn’t something we do for the person who’s hurt us. It’s something we do for ourselves, so we’re no longer victims or prisoners of the past, so we can stop carrying a burden that harbors nothing but pain.
We can’t take away suffering, we can’t change what happened—but we can choose to find the gift in our lives. We can even learn to cherish the wound.
Life—even with its inevitable trauma, pain, grief, misery, and death—is a gift.
Honey, may you also choose to give up the prison and do the work to be free. To find in your suffering your own life lessons. To choose which legacy the world inherits. To hand down the pain—or to pass on the gift.
Abrazo equipo!!
Jorge Oca
Anónimo
Wow,….que increible,…¡cuanto hay que aprender!,…..Gracias,……un abrazo,…..
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